January 1 has far more symbolic weight than practical meaning. It’s a date we’ve collectively agreed represents a “fresh start,” but real change doesn’t work on a schedule like that. More often, it shows up once the noise settles and real life resumes.

If you’re only just starting to notice what isn’t working in your life, that doesn’t mean you’re too late. It usually means you’re finally paying attention and you’re ready to start making some changes.

A new connection removes the illusion of being in control. So how do you know if you're truly ready for dating? Perhaps you've asked yourself this question multiple times throughout the course of therapy or “doing the work”, but you’re not quite sure.